Setting Up Good Habits and Boundaries That Stick with Jen Sincero

“New year, new me!” That's what we always say at the beginning of a new year. It's when we all set new goals for ourselves. However, staying committed to your new habits and goals can be challenging. This 2021, learn how you can establish good habits that stick with today's guest!

In this episode, Jen Sincero talks to us about forming habits and setting boundaries, the topic of her new book, Badass Habits. She also shares her thoughts on her success and gives advice on how to break down the roadblocks we set up for ourselves and the ones around us.

If you want to learn how you can be a better version of yourself, tune in to this episode!

Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode:

Learn how to set up good habits that you’ll keep doing.
What are the common roadblocks in setting good habits?
Discover the power of manifestation and how you can apply it to your life.

Resources

Badass Habits: Cultivate the Awareness, Boundaries, and Daily Upgrades You Need to Make Them Stick by Jen Sincero
Check out the rest of Jen’s books!
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Episode Highlights

Setting Boundaries and Good Habits

We’ll always find reasons not to do the things that will help us grow.
The trick is to stay conscious of the feeling of having accomplished whatever it is you are trying to accomplish.
There may be so many things you'd prefer to do than exercise, but remember how good it makes your body feel. Conjure up the excitement around feeling that way.
Chunking it down also helps—even if you don’t feel like doing it, do it for 5 minutes.

[10:48] “If you really don’t feel like doing it, just do it for five minutes—just get into the habit.”

Overwhelming yourself will knock you down before you even get started.

Celebrating Yourself

According to Jen, in our culture in general, we suck at celebrating.
We are always so quick to look at the negative side of things instead of our accomplishments.
We must get into the habit of celebrating ourselves.
Part of celebrating yourself is the reward, but it is more about acknowledging that you were able to do something challenging.

[14:50] “I think that we so quickly, always look to the negative and just. . . blow past our accomplishments. . . I love the idea of getting into the habit of celebrating ourselves and rewarding ourselves.”

Don’t completely deny yourself!

Usual Roadblocks

Other people, especially the ones closest to us, can be our biggest roadblocks.
Sometimes, they fill us with fear and tell us all their worries about why it’s not going to work or make fun of us.
The people closest to us have the most to lose if we change and grow. They might feel threatened by your growth.
Surround yourself with people who support you.

Dealing with Obstacles

One obstacle for Jen is her quick temper.
Being aware of the obstacle is the key to everything.
Set up good habits to figure out ways to do what you want.
You can also do this by hanging out with new people, rather than those who keep repeating negative beliefs and thoughts.

The Problem Everyone Has in Common

The biggest problem everyone usually has is not moving forward because they don’t want to be abandoned by the people who love them.
Another one is the fake decision, where you want something and do everything to make it happen. However, the second it gets hard, you figure you don’t want it anymore.

[25:46] “Investing in yourself means you believe you’re vested in yourself. It’s such a powerful thing to do.”

The real decision is: instead of figuring out a good reason not to do something, you figure out a way to do it.

The Power of Manifestation

Not wanting to work hard is a mental construct.
It’s hard not doing what you love doing.
Keeping the definition of “hard” in perspective is critical.
Power manifestation focuses on the heart, that your mind plays in creating what you want out of life.
Jen is a big believer in manifestation—when you visualize what you want, you find that you’ve already become that person.

Faking It Until You Make It

Back when she couldn’t afford things, Jen’s mantra was that money flows to her easily and freely.
She didn’t believe her mantra 100%, but she still decided to believe.
The decision to believe is more important than the belief itself.
That changes your energy and makes you want to prove your mantra.
What we hear and what we say to ourselves create deep grooves inside us that influence how we live.

[40:02] “All of this clinging to stuff that does not serve us is, deep deep down, about the need to be right, the need to have security.”

Insights and Advice for Success

If it feels right to you for whatever reason, just do it and don’t listen to what other people say.
At first, no one wanted to publish her book, You Are A Badass, which later sold millions of copies.
Whatever you’re doing is automatically unique because it’s you.
When you get to a place where you feel like it’s too vulnerable, that might be the key to your success. People relate to vulnerability and authenticity.

[50:45] “Just keep doing what feels right and keep doing what feels authentic. And when that scary thing comes, if it’s scary and thrilling, that’s the bull’s-eye.”

Jen’s Radical Love

Jen feels radical love from people, and she likewise also radically loves people.
She also feels radically loved by herself.
Jen used to feel grouchy about things for the longest time until she got desperate.
Then she started opening her mind and started manifesting what she had been visualizing.
That’s like magic, but you also have to work for it and take action.

About Jen

Jen Sincero is a #1 New York Times bestselling author, speaker, and success coach. She transformed herself from feeling frustrated and living in a converted garage with an empty bank account to a successful business owner who can travel all over the world.

She has also appeared on various media outlets such as the New York Times, Oprah Magazine, and Forbes, to name a few. With her books selling millions of copies worldwide, her signature brand of motivational comedy continues to inspire countless people from all walks of life.

You can connect with her on her website or Instagram.