Episode 328 & 329 | Wrapping Up 2020: The Most Important Life Lessons and Takeaways with Tessa Tovar
The year 2020 has brought to the surface invaluable truths that we would not have otherwise discovered. By turning our lives upside down, the pandemic taught us the value of what we take for granted and highlighted what is truly important.
Tess joins me in this special year-end episode to reflect on the year that has passed. We each share our top three lessons from 2020. We also discuss how to discern from a place of wisdom and become aware of our ego.
If you want to learn useful insights to help you face the year ahead, tune in to the full episode.
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Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode:
Discover our top three lessons from 2020.
Learn how to slip into a place of discernment.
Recognize the importance of becoming aware of your ego and owning up to uncomfortable feelings.
Resources:
Episode 269 with Jess Devenport of Paintillio
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The Book of Awakening: Having the Life You Want by Being Present to the Life You Have by Mark Nepo
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Episode Highlights
Holiday Insights
Although Christmas might be different this year, it’s still possible to create that spirit of community and giving.
Don’t forget to give yourself a present this year, too.
Rosie’s gift to herself is disconnecting from technology.
Tess recalls fond childhood memories of Christmas and reflects how she can recreate that atmosphere this year.
Meditative Practices
For Rosie, painting by the numbers is a meditative practice.
On her part, Tess slips into meditation by writing poetry and knitting.
A passage from Mark Nepo’s book highlights the significance of remembering and forgetting, emphasizing the importance of stillness and surrender.
Tess’s Biggest Lessons
Tess realized that instead of running around and trying her hardest to tick her to-do-lists, sitting still was more productive.
Even though she doesn’t chase after opportunities, they come her way regardless.
Tess also discovered that she didn’t like sharing her food.
Tess continues to explore different eating modalities as she learns more about her body.
Rosie’s Biggest Lessons
On her part, Rosie discovered that she could work from home effectively by creating a schedule and sticking to it.
Second, she learned that you can still make mistakes even if you’re working on improving yourself.
Instead of ignoring her flaws, she is slowly learning to accept them.
Any sort of change and transformation is highly uncomfortable.
Even as Rosie tries her best to get pregnant, she is still probing the motivations behind her desire to be a mother. She’s learning to surrender her attachment to what she believes her life ought to be.
Catching Yourself
Your mental state affects your ability to practice mindfulness, and falling victim to that reactionary impulse.
There are three voices in your head. The first is impulsive, the second voice calls for restraint, and the third is the voice of wisdom.
For Rosie, it’s not a matter of right or wrong but learning to observe the situation from a place of discernment.
Since we are egocentric beings, it can be hard to find and listen to that third voice.
Rosie admits that she occasionally catches herself listening to the first and second voices. However, she knows what to do to pull herself out of a negative spiral.
Taming The Ego
Your ego is the primary source of your emotional upheaval.
Learn to discern when it’s the right time to speak up and use your voice.
Your emotional distress may not be evident to your partner. Find a healthy way to express that energy. Otherwise, those feelings will fester and affect your relationship.
Although becoming aware of your ego can be uncomfortable, it is also a humbling experience.
5 Powerful Quotes
[TESS] 16:46
“I realized that all the things that I was running around doing, kind of the frenetic to-do list wasn't as necessary as I thought it was. As I stopped driving back and forth in town like a ping pong ball and sat a little bit more still and just, you know, stayed home more, I realized that was enough.”
[TESS]17:33
“I do believe that the universe is on my side. And that if there's something that I need to come to me, it will. So that's one thing that 2020 has taught me.”
[ROSIE] 23:17
“By no way do I have things figured out. And I often see my defects of character. And I always strive to work on the things that aren't serving my highest good, but I learned to actually accept that this year as opposed to just bypassing it.”
[ROSIE] 29:24
“So it's not a choice of doing what's right or doing what's wrong. It's really a matter of how can you observe the situation from a wise place, from a place of wisdom and truly a place of discerning.”
[ROSIE] 33:35
“That energy needs to be expressed one way or another. Our emotions need to be fully realized in order for them to have a complete cycle, or they're going to live inside your body.”
About Tess
Tessa Tovar is a yoga instructor with over 500 hours of Yoga Teacher Training through 5-Star Yoga Alliance Rated YogaWorks Programs. Tess also has a certification in Health Coaching from the Institute of Integrative Nutrition (IIN). She is Level I & II Reiki Certified and is a Living Yoga Trauma-Informed Certified Teacher. Tess is also a lead trainer of Radically Loved workshops and training programs.
If you want to reach out to Tess, you can visit her website, Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram.
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