Live this Year with Integrity with Martha Beck
Most of us define who we are based on our work, culture, and even relationships. Once you strip these all away, who are you really? Society will always push certain expectations of what it means to be normal and what it means to be successful. If you’re feeling lost and frustrated with your life, you’ve come to the right place.
Let’s all return back to our peace and understand our true selves.
In today's episode, Martha Beck joins us to talk about her book, The Way of Integrity, and what it means to start living with integrity. She shares that falling out of integrity will make you sick, and this is a sign for you to search for your true self. Finally, Martha shares simple ways you can live with integrity, starting with a question: what will bring you peace?
If you’re struggling and burning out, take a step back with this episode!
Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode:
Discover how Martha defines a life of integrity through her book, The Way of Integrity.
Understand why it’s important to be aligned and live according to who we are.
Learn simple tools to live a life of integrity.
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Episode Highlights
[01:57] How Martha Defines Integrity
Martha defines integrity to be whole and intact.
When a plane has all parts working and in structural integrity, it flies. The place crashes when it falls out of structural integrity.
Integrity is aligning the things you do to make you feel whole instead of what you think is going to make you happy.
[05:18] People’s Source of Anxiety
We are naturally impressionable. When there’s a conflict between our true nature and expectations, most of us conform to the latter.
We live in an age where culture has become so large and fast. It’s gone beyond our capacity and becomes a huge distraction.
In Martha’s book, she details an exercise acknowledging emotions we may not want to voice out.
[08:48] What Happens When We Fake Who We Are
Social media supports perfectionism. The health and wellness space also prioritizes positivity.
Rosie shares being honest can sometimes feel like a failure in the wellness space.
Internal suffering isn’t experiencing bad things, it’s being separated from who we are.
When we try to be who we’re not, we make ourselves sick.
Becoming sick is not a judgment, but the body trying to get you back to your truth.
[10:22] “We try so hard to appear to be something we're not that we make ourselves sick, we split ourselves from our integrity…So any culture you're in is going to pressure you to be a certain way. And the moment it's not who you really are, and you start to fake something that you're not, you've split, and you will suffer. And that is not a judgment on you.” - Click Here To Tweet This
[11:21] We Need to be Honest
People are starved for authenticity and integrity.
Learn to shift your shame from “what I never want you to know about me” to “what I want you to know about me.” Chances are, your answer to both is the same.
Some people will turn away from you once you start being honest. It’s because they’re still gripped by the need to conform.
[14:33] “When we are honest and when we don't cover ourselves because of our fear of shame, we give everybody the chance to not feel ashamed. And some people will run away from that because they're still gripped by the culture and it threatens their duplicity; it threatens their mask.” - Click Here To Tweet This
[15:21] How to Start Living with Integrity
For some of us, living with integrity means letting go of existing relationships and communities.
Remember, no matter what happens, you’ll be able to heal and survive.
Even when you lose loved ones, you’ll have peace in your integrity.
[22:00] How to Make Decisions and Martha’s Affirmations
[23:17] “I look at the two sides of the decision, one will bring me more peace than the other. It's that simple. And if I walk in the direction of peace, I'm always going to at least find the way to wholeness.” - Click Here To Tweet This
Across cultures and people, Martha found one phrase that resonates with everyone. It’s “I am meant to live in peace.”
In every decision you make, there will always be a path that brings you peace.
Remember, life isn’t about being one thing all your life. Your peace will change over time.
We’re brought up to conform and lie to ourselves.
[25:22] “You just have to always be allowing things to be flowing and mobile and just constantly checking in with your own sense of peace. Because you're not just being pushed into a shoot like culture sends you. You are being led to your destiny, which is wild and singular. And no one can ever know it, but you.” - Click Here To Tweet This
[29:49] Accept Your Unique Self
Martha realized the importance of being true to yourself when her child was diagnosed with Down syndrome.
She realized it’s not healthy to insist everyone needs to be “normal” when we all have our own definition of it.
Martha learned how it’s important to simply accept people.
[33:54] About the Way of Integrity
Martha hopes her book can help people find peace in their true selves.
[34:14] “If you go deep enough into your own self…it also goes infinitely inward…when you go far enough inside you find this source of consolation love, comfort, sweetness, home, truth, peace, all the words that we throw at it. It can't be described with any of those things, but we're all carrying it.” - Click Here To Tweet This
[36:51] How Martha Feels Radically Loved
Martha shares how she used to always experience morning anxiety. She now feels whole and able to wake up without that level of anxiety.
About Martha
Martha Beck is the bestselling author of The Way of Integrity, a life coach and a speaker. Martha helps people achieve greater levels f personal and professional success through her teleclasses and in-person workshops. She also trains life coaches worldwide through her Wayfinder Life Coach Training Program.
Aside from The Way of Integrity, Martha has also written several books including Finding Your Own North Star, Finding Your Way in a Wild New World, and so much more.
Learn more about Martha’s work on her website. You can also connect with her on Instagram, Twitter, and Facebook.
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