Healing from Trauma, Finding Inner Peace, and Having Happy Days with Gabby Bernstein

After a traumatic experience, you may wonder if there will ever be a time when you can sleep without being haunted by things from the past. What if you could live your life free from constant fear and anxiety despite trauma? No matter what you've been through, you can break free from the experiences that have kept you caged for so long. The happy days will come, and along the way, you take one step closer to becoming the best version of yourself.

In this episode of Radically Loved, Rosie speaks with Gabby Bernstein about her new book Happy Days. Gabby talks about her intention behind the book, including spiritual methods and practices to find inner peace. She also emphasizes the importance of voicing out your truth to resolve hurt. Lastly, Gabby shares the necessary inner work for trauma recovery and how it led to her healing.

If you want to start finding inner peace and freedom from trauma, this episode is for you!

Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode:

  1. Understand why getting to a place of inner peace and safety is critical in recovering from trauma.

  2. Discover the idea behind do-them-now methods in trauma recovery.

  3. Learn tips on working and living in the world as someone who has PTSD.

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    Episode Highlights

    [03:13] Happy Days

    • Gabby's intention in writing the book is to make readers feel held. She wants to guide people toward profound freedom and inner peace from trauma.

    • The book is about Gabby's trauma recovery. She needed to be in a place of healing to write about it.

    • Happy Days is all about giving voice to survivors to speak their truths. 

    • Tune in to the full episode to hear about Rosie's experience reading Happy Days!

    [05:24] Gabby: “When you give voice to the secrets that we keep hidden for so long, it's really scary at first. It can be really scary.” - Click Here to Tweet This

    [06:24] Creating a Safe Space

    • In her book, Gabby tackles several trauma-based therapies, including internal family systems therapy.

    • Internal family systems therapy helps us see ourselves in many parts. There are parts of us that want to hide, while others want to speak the truth.

    • Entering a safe place gives us a sense of security to open up about our exiled parts.

    • Expressing our truth allows us to have more freedom from the constraints of the past. 

    • It's a slow and steady process to face the truth of our suffering.

    [07:17] Gabby: “In that genuine, authentic, vulnerable expression of our truth, we become more and more free.” - Click Here to Tweet This

    [07:42] Opening Up About Trauma

    • Talking about trauma requires you to be the speaker of your story. It comes with a great deal of responsibility.

    • You have to be ready to hold space for your audience and be grounded enough in your recovery.

    • Gabby wrote the book with a profound level of responsibility to avoid triggering readers. 

    • Some parts of the book include an invitation to pause or skip ahead if the content can be too heavy to handle.

    • Once you feel unsafe, you can relapse into old trauma responses.

    [13:31] Do-them-now Methods

    • The do-them-now methods in the book are designed to help readers self-regulate and create a sense of inner safety and security.

    • Having a sense of internal safety can aid you in getting in touch with your hidden truths and therapeutic practice.

    • Gabby constructed Happy Days, emphasizing self-help and spiritual, practical methods that readers can use to create safety in their systems.

    • The book's bottom line: it requires work to heal and embody inner peace and freedom.

    [16:15] On Fears and Overcoming Them

    • Gabby says that she's a lot less scared now than ten years ago when she felt unsafe in her presence, body, and world.

    • She was constantly going into spiritual practice to find safety until she finally achieved it.

    [17:24] Re-traumatization

    • Trauma usually resurfaces during significant life events that can shatter our control mechanisms.

    • Gabby experienced this when she was family planning. It was a time when she was safe enough to remember the hurt.

    • The median age for people to remember a dissociated trauma is 50.

    • The probable reason it came up sooner for Gabby is her background in spiritual practice.

    [18:16] Gabby: “Sometimes, our inner system knows, ‘Okay, now you're safe enough to go to this next level.’” - Click Here to Tweet This

    [19:35] Living with Post-traumatic Stress Disorder

    • Create moments throughout the day where you're checking in with your inner system, ensuring a place of safety for yourself.

    • PTSD can make it challenging to live in the present moment, causing anxiety about safety.

    • Get the therapeutic practices and services that you need as soon as possible.

    • There's total recovery available to you when you commit.

    • A chapter in Happy Days contains body-based practices for soothing the nervous system. Listen to the full episode to learn about the Heart Hold practice!

    [20:08] Gabby: "Living with PTSD means you're living not in the present moment, disembodied, almost like you've had your head chopped off, and you're walking around always feeling unsafe." - Click Here to Tweet This

    [22:21] PTSD Awareness and Education

    • The Internet is full of haters. Getting riled up by their opinions typically reflects your uncertainty around what you're sharing.

    • TikTok is a great platform to talk about trauma nowadays.

    • Share from a place of confidence. Be sure to be grounded when you do so.

    • Tune in to the full episode to hear Gabby's experience with Internet trolls!

    [23:26] Gabby: “The universe will reflect back your likeness. If you're getting resistance, it's only a reflection of your own inner resistance.” - Click Here to Tweet This

    About Gabby

    Gabby Bernstein is a #1 New York Times bestselling author, international speaker, and thought leader. She was named a next-generation thought leader on Oprah's Super Soul Sunday. YouTube also listed her as one of the 16 YouTube Next Video Bloggers and Mashable's 11 Must-Follow Twitter Accounts for Inspiration.

    Gabby has been featured as an expert on the Dr. Oz show and the Forbes List of 20 Best-Branded Women. She also co-hosted the Guinness World Record largest guided meditation with Deepak Chopra. As a keynote speaker, she has presented at Google and TEDxWomen, to name a few.

    If you want to connect with Gabby, visit her website and Instagram.

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